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This is what arriving early looks like. I am here before security opens. (at Newport News/Williamsburg International Airport (PHF))

This is what arriving early looks like. I am here before security opens. (at Newport News/Williamsburg International Airport (PHF))

"LeBron is the girl who hangs out with you all night. And you buy all the drinks. And at the end of the night, she went home with the jerk."

That’s Shawn Brewster, a Cleveland barkeep, on the potential of LeBron James returning to the Cavaliers.

I just came across the above quotation on MG Siegler’s excellent blog. And I thought it was important that we all get clear about something:

LeBron James doesn’t owe Cleveland anything and “that girl” doesn’t owe anything to a guy who buys her drinks either.

The fact that this comparison exists, that it’s printed in the New York Times, and that people nod their heads or smile or laugh about it really highlights what’s wrong with the way so many men in our society think about women.

The fact that basketball fans want to see LeBron return to Cleveland doesn’t matter one iota when it comes to what LeBron wants. You know who gets to decide what LeBron wants? LeBron does. If his decision seems like a slap in the face to you, that’s your problem; it’s not LeBron’s problem.

The fact that a “nice guy” bought drinks for a woman all night doesn’t matter one iota when it comes to whether or not that woman will sleep with him, with someone else, or with no one. The fact that the woman chooses to have sex with “the jerk” is her choice, just as it’s the “nice guy’s” choice to buy her drinks. And let’s not leave aside the fact that the “nice guy” isn’t actually all that nice if he’s thinking about what’s owed to him in this way.

If this still isn’t making sense to you, go read Dan Gilbert’s rant from the last time LeBron made a free agency decision. And then go read some of the horrific things written by that guy who recently killed a bunch of people in California to get revenge on women who wouldn’t have sex with him.

Buying drinks for a woman, or even just being nice to her, doesn’t constitute a transaction wherein the woman now owes you sex. If that somehow isn’t clear — if you somehow think you buy what you want from a woman with alcohol or being nice and that she’s required to keep up her side of a transaction that exists only in your mind — you have some very serious problems that go well beyond your hurt feelings over where LeBron James is going to play basketball next year.

(via kohenari)

(via kohenari)

Does he remind anyone else of Bob Dylan?

(Source: Spotify)

"I worked my way through a top notch college on a $10.00 an hour part time grocery store job, but that was nearly 50 years ago. I was also able to afford a car (a souped-up jalopy) and my own studio apartment beginning in the second year. Today, that same college cost six times the old tuition (not including books, etc.)..$10.00 and hour will only feed a family of four by dividing a single meal into four portions. It doesn’t pay for transportation unless you cut out the meal and it definitely doesn’t pay for rent. Of course, in my day, clothes were simply not big-ticket items and they lasted indefinitely, being well made by American Union workers (I actually still have a pair of shoes and several shirts and pants from that time which I still wear now and again)."
Artichoke pizza, kinda.

Artichoke pizza, kinda.

readandbreathe:

"Besides cats and porn, most of the Internet is taken up by advice for writers."—Junot Diaz at the Brooklyn Public Library

It helps to inspire the many writers that don’t write or creatives that don’t create.

readandbreathe:

"Besides cats and porn, most of the Internet is taken up by advice for writers."—Junot Diaz at the Brooklyn Public Library

It helps to inspire the many writers that don’t write or creatives that don’t create.

Sunrise in the West Village. In the tiny Father Demo Park.

Sunrise in the West Village. In the tiny Father Demo Park.

Mario & Luigi on Long Island.

Mario & Luigi on Long Island.